Here’s why I love coaching (both giving and receiving!)
The other morning I woke up in a bit of a funk, attributed to a streak of poor sleep.
That funk wasn’t going to do me any favors showing up as my badass, best self on an upcoming call, about which I was already feeling apprehensive.
So I phoned a friend and fellow coach.
In the time it took for her to ask me just four questions – FOUR QUESTIONS! – I experienced a mindset shift.
The emotion I was feeling about the situation virtually disappeared, and I hung up the call with increased energy and motivation.
My call went swimmingly.
Yet one more confirmation of something I regularly share with clients:
The place that you lead from determines your results.
Had I stayed in my funk, the call would not have gone as well.
The energy and mindset you bring to any situation is going to have a direct impact on interactions, relationships, and overall effectiveness.
Why? Because, for most of us, its human nature to respond to people in kind. If someone is in your face and aggressive, you’re less likely to respond all warm and fuzzy to them.
Since not everyone has several coaches on speed dial, here are a few questions for self-coaching the next time you find yourself in a funk and want to lead from a different place:
- What story are you telling yourself about this situation?
- How does embracing this story serve you?
- What are you afraid of?
- What else are you afraid of?
- If you weren’t afraid, what would you do differently?
- What would it feel like to unhook yourself from the story?
- What action are you inspired to take as a result of your reflection?
Grab your journal and a pen (or your notetaking app of choice) and spend a few minutes in a quiet place answering some or all of the questions and see what emerges for you.
Are you leading from a funk or as your badass, best self?
